If the ideal of a woman working in a high paying job in a Jewish institution isn’t feasible, then a strong kollel husband and joining the growing number of Torah programs for women can prevent careerism and secular values from entering a woman’s mind, but kulei hai ve’ulai…
Is it better for the husband in that circumstance to work instead?
That depends who you ask; very difficult question that is up to gedolei yisroel, and it’s one of the dividing points between chasidim and litvish.
Unfortunately the baalebatish world will say that both spouses need to work to live “normally.”