This is a bit backwards. If your worried about women going out, kol kevuda, et cetera, than the typical job in an established (frum, or hiring from the frum community) firm is the more modest lifestyle. Sitting in an office and by a computer, is less up and about than the stay-at-home-wife, who has an outing with the kids on Sunday, meets friends for lunch on Monday, local shopping on Tuesday, mall shopping on Wednesday, and Shabbos shopping on Thursday. The young frum working woman, does a good amount of shopping online. And store shopping is done in quick spurts. Almost all the married woman leisurely shopping around town, don’t work.
The Bais Yaakov graduate’s future spirituality hinges on her personal commitment. Most kollel wives are also wondering where their frumkeit went when they pass thirty. It’s not because of the office. It’s because they do nothing to maintain their education and upbringing. And after so many years, it starts to wear off. Many mothers reengage with their frumkeit through their kids. But it not enough they are adults now and need an adult ruchnios.
Why would anybody not work?