“They don’t even realize that according to their arguments it would be equally unacceptable to make in any (large) city say for example chicago.”
No, it wouldn’t. As we’ve said several times on this very thread, Reb Moshe was matir the Queens eruv. He did not asser city eruvin on the basis of the machmir definition of a reshus harabim. He asser’d the Manhattan and Brooklyn eruvin on the basis that they are a R”HR even according the the meikel definition.
I explicitly said a few posts up “I respect these rabbis and don’t want to be throwing around accusations, but they need to explain their reasoning.” If that sounds disrespectful enough that you need to be throwing a hissy fit, then maybe you aren’t cut out for the CR. Personally, I didn’t see Avira say anything disrespectful either.