@Avirah
So when beginning a marriage, do you think it will end in divorce?
First: we do our best to make marriages work and last, but not all do.
Second: if not planning for the possibility of divorce…
A. Why do we learn Gittin before Kedushin?
B. Why do we have the divorce settlement in the Ketubah?
C. Why do clients seek Pre-Nuptial agreements?
I would be far happier if another divorce case never walked through the doors of the CTL firm and people had happy lifelong marriages, but if a marriage is to be dissolved legally in the secular courts, I would rather it came to me (who insists on an equitable solution for husband, wife and children & even an agreement for grandparents to have visitation rights) than some of the vultures in the profession who attempt to decimate the opposing party.
I remind my clients, especially those with children and more than 10 year marriages that it wasn’t all bad. A determination has been made that you can no longer live together in a marriage, but that does not mean your soon to be ex-spouse and parent of your offspring is the enemy.