Reply To: Question of an ignorant, closed-minded Lubavitcher

Ehrlich,

I think you summed up the view of those who say yechi quite accurately.

All of the “alive physically” Lubavitchers that I know (which are many) go to the ohel quite often, and don’t believe in all the current dollars nonsense etc.

I’ve personally never had an honest discussion with the more extreme Lubavitchers, since they are all Israeli, and also many don’t have much of a head on their shoulders for intellectual discussion.

>>>We do not want him to start believing that Lubavitch is the best way to serve Hashem, and that any other group, especially Litivish, missing out.

I would think the opposite. He should only join Chabad if he feels that it is the best way of serving Hashem. If he lacks nothing in his avoda now, why should he change?
The moment I find a derech that I feel serves Hashem better than Chabad, I will join.

A good sign to see if he’s moving in the right direction is to monitor the outcome of his joining chabad. If he adds more in his learning, keeping halacha, middos, and serving Hashem – that means he’s in a good place.
If chas v’shalom he decreases in the above, you have a problem.

The main thing is: For more advice, talk to a real life Lubavitchers who you know and trust. And for the Litvisher perspective, talk to a real life Litvisher rov who knows your family personally.

(Asking about Chabad on a Jewish forum is equivalent to asking about Jews on a public forum (l’havdil). If you try you’ll see what I mean. For all those who may attack this statement, I’m obviously not comparing practically, just an example to bring out a point)