Re, how rabbonim treat people: i work with MO families on a constant basis. I treat them like jews, because that’s what they are; beloved children of Hashem. I place no importance whatsoever on their affiliation; i am there to do my job and to teach Torah. That’s what the rabbonim you know do too; i would treat you like an equal as well, because i treat every jew that way – now i might talk differently to uneducated jews who don’t understand Hebrew, and I’ll speak differently with my yeshiva friends, because they’re from that world, but the level of respect is the same across the board .
So if you’ve come far enough that people talk to you like yeshivishe baalei batim, great for you! Kol hakavod; it’s a sign of accomplishment.