Making statements like ‘these things don’t happen to people like us or in our community’ just make the shame and secrecy deeper and make it that that much harder for people to get help.
My father used to tell me that Jews couldn’t become alcoholics because they introduced children to alcohol at a young age (I must have been allowed manischewitz wine at kiddish since about age 8). Well that’s not how that works and while thank G-d I never became an alcoholic, I developed a very unhealthy relationship with alcohol to deal with anxiety and depression. Since I had a false sense of security that alcoholism could never happen to me, I missed some of the early warning signs in my behavior and was not as cautious as I might have been otherwise.
Fyi – I am not frum, I went to public school K-12, and I’ve never used marijuana. So much for your stereotypes….