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People are confusing things. A parent should not raise children in order to get Nachat. That would be completely self serving. A person should raise their children to learn Torah and do Mitzvot because that is what Hashem wants parents to do. Whether or not that will bring parents nachat is completely independent of their obligation to raise Jewish children properly. Of course all parents have a vision of how they want their child to turn out, because that’s their idea of an eved Hashem. Every child is different and every parent is different. A different “flavor” of religious Jew is always more favorable than off the derech. A parent has to use their sechel to know when and how to direct their child or leave them be. If they end up how you wanted you’ll be very happy and get “nachat.” But you didn’t do it for the nachat you did it because you are raising your child to be the best Jew they can be, because that is what Hashem wants from you.