>>>Smerel, it’s the simple chain of events. They only assembled an army after haman was defeated and mordechai was made viceroy
Again you are not answering the question. You are assuming that had the gezora not been botel they would not have made an effort at self defense. To the extent that you believe it proves that you shouldn’t. Based on what? Of course the sequence of events was that way. Trying to fight is never first step. Particularly when the other side is a lot stronger than you and almost certainly going to win.
Chazal say the parsah of Yaakov and Esav in V’Yislach is to teach us that preparing for milchoma is also a way to deal with those who threaten us. Do you think Torah haskafa is otherwise? Based on what?
You should however teach some of your pacifist haskafa to some of your antizionist friends. As above their endless seeking out confrontation and fights is what caused my disillusionment with that movement and it’s beliefs . The Zionists for their part don’t act nearly as standoffish towards their enemies