Sechel, by your thinking, chasidus shouldn’t be important because it’s not in shulchan aruch. Neither is the idea of a chasidishe rebbe mentioned anywhere in the rishonim.
But those are ikkarim for tou, simply because your rebbe said so – which is fine, except when it comes to defending something your community is lacking in, you turn to something which you yourself don’t hold of when it comes to things you decided are important.
Does shulchan aruch say that giving someone chazir is lifnei iver? Does it have to?
Did you know that nowhere does it say in shulchan aruch that a mechitzah is required in shul?
Quit the hypocrisy.
That women receive punishment for being macshil men is in poskim which talk about lifnei iver – please read halichos bas yisroel, it’s a very good sefer. I don’t have it on me at home, but it’s readily available. It’s also no surprise that shlomo hamelech’s prime representation of the yatzer hora in mishlei is an immodest woman. Just as a source i remember off the top of my head, which i wrote above, is the peleh yoetz, which says that women will be punished first, before the men they were machshil.
As for whether or not women who keep halacha are nevertheless starred at by men, אונס רחמנא פטריה, the rule is that an oness is exempt from punishment. She’s not obligated to stay in the house for that. However to whatever degree she can centralize the home, that’s a fulfillment of kol kevudah, which is partially due to the above, but not limited to it.