1. Until the earlier 20th century, most women had full time jobs working on farms. Only the super-rich got sit around managing the household (which meant supervising a large number of servants). Middle class urban women ran businesses, engaged in home manufacturing, or had jobs as servants. To be a “traditional” wife who never had to have a career, you had to be wealthy. It wasn’t just Jewish women who worked for a living.
2. Given that the secular elite are proving unable to have children, there is a high probability that they will die out. This will be a messy matter when in about 40 years senior citizens have to cope with programs as social security cutting benefits, while most voters will be the younger persons who are having children. Already some countries are suffering from falling populations.