Your questions are deep and thought-provoking. The true answer is quite simple.
There are seven ????? ??? ????? ????:
?????, ????, ????, ????, ?????, ????? ???, ??????.
These seven ????? are symbolic in nature, and are intended to remind the ???? ?????? of certain ??????, or principles, that a Jew must keep in mind throughout his life.
Men need to perform a physical action from time to time to remind them of these principles, because their mind is so preoccupied with the responsibilities and worries of making a living, providing for themselves and their family, defending their tribe against foreign invaders, and so on, that they are prone to forget such basic concepts as ????? ??, ??? ?????, ?????, ????? ?????, and so on. So ????? commanded them: At the very least make sure to perform certain actions at certain times to remind you of these ?????? so you don’t totally forget Me.
Women, on the other hand, are given responsibilities which – ????? knows – won’t hinder them from always keeping these principles in mind, so they don’t need these periodical reminders. Obviously, if a woman so pleases, she is free to give herself these reminders as well, by performing the ????? ??? ????? ????, and if she does, all the better.
As to your second question:
The main curse given to ????, was that she would always feel inferior to the ???, even though she bears a more noble task and a more awesome responsibility than the man.
???? can be translated “with sadness”.
???? – with sadness, ???? ???? – will you perform the most noble task in the world, the task of giving forth and nurturing life. Why the sadness? Because,
??? ???? ?????? – You will seek always to be like the ???, not appreciating the value that you bring to the world. And as a result of this feeling of inferiority, ???? ???? ??.
So yes, you are feeling the curse, but the curse is the false perception of inferiority. When you begin to appreciate the value and gift of womanhood, and when you begin to understand that your responsibilities are no less than your brother’s, you won’t feel any curse. You’ll feel blessed.