@SBYG,
Very thoughtful questions! I think you might find the following website very refreshing and valuable. It is specifically geared towards addressing questions revolving around women’s place in Torah/halacha/hashkafa and is willing to really tackle the questions in-depth with many mekoros. https://www.deracheha.org/
Here’s an article specifically re your questions: https://www.deracheha.org/positive-time-bound-mitzvot/