One doesn’t watch the Special Olympics and say “wow, I could do that! i could play that game and even excel in it! why in the world don’t i have the right to play the events of that Special Olympics?!”
You are intrinsically holier than the men. The men need the focus.
I suggest you read (Rebitzen) Miriam Kosman’s books on the subject, or you can read the other texts she recommends.