“#1 answers like women are busy at home or are holier are apologetics.”
I’m glad someone had the guts to say this. These “women are holier” drashos are relatively recent and very cringeworthy.
Also, the “you should be glad you aren’t burdened” is absolute nonsense. Any man who actually believes that is making a bracha l’vatalah every time he says “shelo asani isha.” We are happy to have the chiyuvs; if you’re not, you have to introspection to do.
I think it seems like the OP has heard these transparently phony answers in the past and was looking for something different.