Daas, I am not saying that everyone is doing it for the wrong reasons. A rough estimate, one should have iq at least 120 to be learning, which is 10% of population, this is not accounting for middos.
And I am not denying that many have good intentions and following the advice they are given. Still, at some point, people need to be responsible themselves. … A friend told me that he was trying to encourage his married son to get a better job to support his own family, and the son blamed his parents back for sending him to yeshiva that encouraged him to stay in learning too long.