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These questions are from an article titled:
Dignity for Singles by Chananya Weissman,
that was published on September 8, 2017, in The Times of Israel:

1. It is acceptable for someone on the very fringes of a single’s life
to deliver unsolicited “constructive criticism” on how he is running his personal life.
Why is it not similarly acceptable for a single to walk into someone’s house
and critique how a couple is raising their children, spending their money, or managing their home?

2. Why are singles often told by someone with a seemingly random
shidduch suggestion to trust the would-be matchmaker’s hunch,
but singles are discouraged from trusting their own hunches?

4. If a relationship works out, why does the shadchan get the credit,
but if it doesn’t work out, it’s the fault of the singles?

8. Why is there such delicateness when trying to help childless couples (rightfully so),
but not for singles, who lack not only the opportunity to procreate,
but also companionship in their journey?
Why do people who approach the former issue with sensitivity believe anything goes with singles?

12. Singles are often told, “That’s why you’re not married.”