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Talkingtachlisnow26
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I hear what you’re saying, however perhaps you are not understanding fully my idea completely. Every person in Shidduchim can get married at any point they choose including the older single girls. How you may ask? Because it’s supply and demand. Whether you like it or not every single has a more or less fixed value in the shidduch market. Thereby some singles are sought after by the majority, and some singles are not sought after very much. Lots of variables play a role in the value of a single. For examples, family dynamics, Yechus, wealth, job, looks, personality, and plenty more. So the older single girls are either 1 of the 2 categories and the answer is the same for both categories. Lower your standards, marry someone below you. And there’s almost always someone below you in the market. For example Hashem made it difficult for physical special needs, Geirim, Baalei Yeshiva, widowers, and others to be desired by the mass of singles. If you are getting older marry someone who would feel grateful that you are interested in them, even though you are superior in the market. They would feel “I got a catch, a diamond, or like winning the lottery. Readjusting the standards for older singles and also while they are young will solve the issue. As well as an answer for those who are already older, and the Gedolim advice is not even applicable to them, leaving them out to dry.

Please explain to me how I’m misunderstanding still?