Joe, I have a very close relationship with R’ Bender, and communicate with him regularly. Believe me, he knows how I live my life, and he has no problems with it. R’ Bender is one of the few Gedolim today who truly believe in chanoch l’naar al pi darko, and he recognizes that the way he lives is not the best for everyone else. He encouraged me to go to college. As I said, he is well aware of pretty much everything I do. I take any advice he gives me very seriously.
Maybe he doesn’t have the same issues with Modern Orthodoxy that you do, and recognizes that it’s a perfectly fine derech of Judaism? I happen to personally know guys from Darchei whom he encouraged to go to YU for college. What do you say to that?
