AAQ – I hear you, but do you think Avraham would send Eliezer if he were able to zoom in to Lavan and settle it himself?
That segues into the separate question of why Avraham didn’t go himself. There are different answers in the Meforshim. Zoom, or telephones for that matter, don’t add any input into the decision making process. They just make things technically easier. Ditto for AI self-driving cars, or regular cars (and planes), unless you have Kefitzas Haderech like Eliezer.
It is actually ironic – that Avraham leaves his elderly father in Suria [several meforshim explain why he has a right/obligation to listen to this tzivui despite a general mitzva of kibud av) and then has to send a shaliach to fetch a wife for his son from there. I don’t know what to do with this observation …
Terach wasn’t alive at this point anyway. We don’t find Avraham criticized for leaving him, and he apparently wasn’t happy with having to do that, which apparently was itself part of the nisayon of Lech Lecha – מבית אביך. We do find that Avraham held that his extended family were still better than the Canaanite local yokels.
By analogy – would you say that having Siyata Dishmaya for a trip requires a driver and a self-driving car will not lead to a successful trip? We do have such thinking in mezuza writing, etc
I think Shidduchim are closer to Mezuzah writing as opposed to simply a technical activity such as driving etc. We have to always remember that Hashem is so great that He can help us DESPITE our hishtadlus…