What’s the message that’s being given to us? Do as I say, but not as I do.
Our role models: Rabbonim; Rabbeim; Kolleleit; Yeshiva administration; etc- are mostly away from the city during the summer months– in the country or camps or hotels or traveling. Borough Park and Flatbush are ghost towns (what a m’chaya!)
What’s the heter for abandoning their mispalilim; talmidim; and families who depend on their spiritual guidance?
Wives, don’t kid yourselves. Even with the dinners and night kollels, there’s loads of time for other things. We are only human beings, not malachim and no better then our heroic biblical personalities who were nichshal.
Rav Eliyahu Lapian, even when quite elderly, did not trust himself to be put in situations where it was possible to be be nichshal with women.
How then can we separate men from their pas b’salo, and expect them to be tzadikim?