Yoshi, you are right. I often shudder when thinking aout what if I met a non-frum person, and wanted to invite him for a Shabbos and take him to shul. What in the world would he see that might motivate him? Would the type of davening in most shteiblach and yeshivishe shuls and the general attitude and behavior of the mispallelim be positive or negative on a total beginner. Do people come over and wish a warm shalom aleichem to a stranger, or just talk with their old buddies afterwards.
Are their any nice niggunim, or just fast mumbling. Would the drasha be comprehensible to a beginner, or just yeshivishe raid?
I get nervous thinking about it.