nameless. you are wrong about only chabad not holding hands after chupah. Where do you come from that you think that??
The entire litvish/yeshivish world does not hold hands. it is chiba berabim. see my earlier post.
rabbiofberlin. You truly have a chassidish soul. But not every mitzva tanz has a rebbe in it. Also, If mitzva tansen are so holy, why is the badchan busy degrading it by making (sometimes off-color)jokes?.
For those who say “close family” ,(lgbg) there is close family on both sides, so automatically there are strangers! So that logic is faulty at best.
I agree with noitallmr. I was recently at a big wedding where it was obvious the families were very far from chassidish (mixed seating and such), just a “shtickel”. They had a mitzva tanz. The kallah was so clueless, she danced along (which is in and of itself wrong as it was in front of men) and then she kissed all the men she danced with, including her new husband’s uncles and grandfathers. Oh, and a great and holy Rebbe came to dance mitzva tanz too there, which was very beautiful.(really!)
(And this is not so rare, i have been to at least one other such scenario)
To be fair, most chassidish and heimish people know how to make a proper mitzva tanz and it is their minhag after all. But there are certainly many issues one can find with it , to answer nameless