postsemgirl, to clarify a little bit more what I meant, I am not saying that you didn’t gain and that you didn’t change.
I will give one small example, and I can probably think of a lot more. Iy”h in a few years, when you’re spending every day of your life trying to get your toddler to stop picking on your baby, do you think your patience level will be different because you went to sem in e”y? If yes, then I say kol hakavod to your seminary.
Another example: I know so many people who would not have opted for a kollel life had they known what it would really entail. They only realize this after they are married for a few years. Which means they are not being prepared for real life.