Bored@work,
I’m sure you mean everything yopu’ve said lishma, but I have to tell you, I don’t think you grew up in the real world.
Earlier whaen I asked why you thought sem in EY was “essential to a jewish girl” (your words) one of the things you said was:
“Our generation is also into making things easy and as simple as possible. Some things u learn in seminary such as independance u can learn in life experince, but if were so into making things as simple as possible, why not in this area as well.”
Later on, you replied to Gavra with:
“Maybe a year or seminary would have supported me for 2 years of kollel, but I still think it was worth it because if it wasnt for that, I would not have married someone in kollel at all”
So let’s get this straight some of the reasons seminary is “essential” and “a must” because:
1) It teaches you independence.
2) We might as well make things a simple as possible
3) Without it you might not have married a kollel boy.
Well I hate to break it to you but:
1) There are alot of folks out there who don’t see being shipped off around the world for an all-expenses-paid 12-month party, as an independece-building exercise. You, like many young kids, confuse being away from your parents, with being independent. True independence comes with responsibility. Having to do you own laundry doesn’t cut it. Who do you think learns more “independence” the seminary girl, or a girl who works after HS because she knows she will have to defray some of the cost of her own wedding.
2) You’ve got to be kidding. Simple for who? The kid, or the parent slaving to pay for it.
3) Let’s assume you are correct. Is marrying a non-kollel boy a fate so awful, it renders sem a “must”.