Graphix-girl, what happens in many sems with the kolel, shidduchim talks, is that a girl leaves with the impression that it’s the speaker’s way or the highway. What is more beneficial is discussion, and meeting some kollel families and talking with them, and teachers, speakers, etc. who could serve as mentors giving guidance (not brainwashing!) re shidduchim. You really didn’t get any of that?
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