Reply To: Dating Dilemmas

Hi,

thanks 4 all ur responses and for responding “al rishon, rishon…” 🙂

ujm-can u explain WHY tu ruled out e/t as being “inappropriate ?

here are some things I have heard from others that can be wrong w/ some of the above :

1)pool & bowling – during these sports girl often has to bend over-may be tznius issue especially by pool i.e. leaning over table

2)complimenting on appearance- I know that guys seem to love compliments but 4 most girls it makes us feel uncomfortable-4sure in the beginning stages when u hardly know the other person yet.

3)walking out of car- I also feel its the right thing to do & gentlemanly, some yeshiva guys do this, but 4some reason a lot of yeshiva guys dont do it bec they say they feel uncomfortable ..

4)sharing a portion- what I mean is tasting from e/ others plates b4 youve bitten in so no germs issue-s/o once told me this is problematic bec even married couples @ crtn times (nida) can’t eat from e/ others plates

5)asking to be taken home -so its only ok if your not feeling well? whats if the shidduch is just wayy off & ur not in the mood of wasting ur/his time -can u say something like “I think you’re a really nice person and I may even have a friend for you.. I just dont think its gonna work ” ??

Jphone-ur idea of “its getting late ..” is a good one thats been used but thats sorta hinting that u dont think hes for you is it okay to just be honest/blunt in a nice way ?

Torahis1- about the ‘seatbelt issue’ I seriously think thats a joke-I dont know any girls that dont wear seatbelts on dates -& if they don’t they should be ticketed thats pathetic.