Squeak,
I was being facetious. I don’t see anything wrong with a chosson and Kallah discretely complimenting each other.
I think what many of these issues come down to is that this generation seems to have lost its ability to apply the concepts of:
1) Hamachmir yachmir l’atzmo, and
2) Chanoch L’naar al pi darko
Our current leaders seem disinclined to allow young people to ever take the chinuch they have received and ever use it to make an actual decision. (This is partcularly puzzling given that this chinuch was provided by those same leaders. It doesn’t say much for the confidence they have in their own ability to be mechanech.) The result is that we find it easier to just issue one-size-fits-all chumros, guidelines, bans, etc.
Now, some will ask “What about Al Ta’amin B’atzmicha?
That’s true.
That’s why we need to have a chinuch and to use that chinuch wisely. I don’t think it is intended to mean you can never make a decision.
Same old, same old.