Modernlakewoodguy makes an excellent point. Although sheitls have certain advantages- such as staying more securely on the head, easier to cover all hair, looks nice, etc, this is only acceptable when it is a modest sheitl. The poskim all agree that a sheitl that is so well-made that you can’t even tell without doing a double-take is absolutely assur and defeats the purpose of covering hair. It is absolutely preferable to wear a snood or a tichel that covers all the hair than to wear these kinds of sheitls. I myself have been wearing only snoods and tichels since my sheitl wore out because it is so difficult to find a modest sheitl these days. When my daughter got married, she went the same way. I find it ridiculous that sometimes I hear a girl got engaged and I see her walking around 2 months later and cannot be sure whether I should ask her how wedding plans are going or whether I should ask her how she’s enjoying married life. Just as it is wrong and not tzanua to wear tightly fitting clothes even though they cover everything, so too, one must not wear an expensive, hair-like sheitl, even though it covers all the hair. Either get a proper, modest sheitl, or stick with snoods and tichels (making sure of course that the tichel is large enough to cover everything). And as for Shabbosdik? The snood that you wear around the house may not be so nice, but there are nice snoods out there, as well as nice silk tichels which fall under the category of Shabbosdik. Modernlakewoodguy- tell your wife not to lose heart. She should continue in her modest ways, be an example to the children, and inspire others to adopt such wonderful standards of tznius.
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