milchig,
You make good points. Here are my thoughts:
The writer wrote “Why is it that a women who wears a modest snood on shabbos gets dirty looks and jeers from other Lakewood woman who strut about with their $3,000 custom wigs? Why did my wife even have one woman come up to her and tell her that “this isn’t an israeli kibutz and its not shabosdik to wear a snood”.
I would not think twice if the writer would be discussing a one-time incident. There are rude individuals in every community, unfortunately. However, “dirty looks and jeers from other Lakewood women” seems to be discussing multiple individuals. Being a long-time Lakewood resident of multiple and varied neighborhoods and a “snood wearer”, I feel the post is not credible. Most women I know wear snoods on Shabbos afternoon. The post, however plaintive, does not ring true. Anyone is free to disagree of course.
I truly understand your concern regarding a possible insult. In almost every other situation, my perspective would mirror yours. This time, though, I think the concern needs to be redirected to the terrible Motzei Shem Ra on a community, which is a very serious Aveirah. I think you would agree that Elul is no time to be speaking ill (especially fabricating ill) of whole communities. I have seen this done with other communities as well, and it astounds me each time. I may not have the information necessary to counteract claims against other communities, but it is nevertheless startling to see the ease with which individuals speak ill of whole communities in this manner.
A snood is tznius, yes. I am happy I wear one. I suspect, though, that Hashem would rather us wear shaitels than be Motzei Shem Ra or speak Lashon Hara (when the information IS true) in this manner. One can bring even legitimate complaints without the Lashon Hara. Unless, of course, badmouthing a community was the point…