lesschumras,
Are you asking your question L’shem Shomayim? Or is Motzi Shem Ra and Lashon Hara on a community just a Chumrah too?
A blog is an anonymous forum. The dangers inherent in such a forum are enormous. One area is the potential for complete fabrications to either enjoy the excitement or satisfy an agenda.
If someone is being Motzi Shem Ra (or speaking Lashon Hara) on a community, it is our (yours, mine, and others) obligation to either defend the community (in a case of Motzi Shem Ra) or protest the Lashon Hara.
Protesting the veracity of Mr. ModernLakewoodGuy’s rendition of his story is simply that. A public sin by an anonymous blogger needs to be counteracted publicly. Obviously, a blogger using his name will need to be addressed in an alternative format, however arduous.
“But some people know my screen name” is feeble.
If you have difficulty accepting criticism, I understand. That’s human nature. It’s OK to disagree, too. I like Chumras (snood), you don’t :).
For now, I think you should bring future questions on this issue to your LOR. I will do the same. If you do, I hope you print out the exact text of our dialogue, instead of providing your own rendition of our positions as stated in the thread.
All the best.