I’ve been to Israel many times, and been to weddings there as well, and if I wore a tichel to a wedding, no one would look twice at me there. A lot of the women there wear tichels, (a lot more compared to Lakewood) to simchos and to shul. If I wore a tichel to a wedding here in Lakewood, I too get dirty looks, or I get the “looking me up and down” scenario.
I have lived in Lakewood for a number of years, and really do love it here, but sometimes the women here can be quite rude and insensitive. Yes, there are many women here who would never speak in such a crude manner towards another, but the amount of women that treat others with such disrespect is overwhelming. (I’ve seen some women talk to elders this way as well)
So one cannot say that this poster is a lier, or how this “never happens here” or “only a small number of women here are that way.” I live here, and see this behavior first hand. Lakewood used to be a wholesome town, but within the past few years, I’ve noticed how materialistic people are becoming.
It isn’t right to bash another poster because in your “opinion” they are speaking loshon harah, they are just letting others know what is going on in their very town. They come here for help, advice, and sympathy, and all you can do is find a “fault.” You aren’t making Lakewood look very good by acting that way. Two wrongs don’t make a right, and don’t attempt to argue that it does. This post should be a lesson for some people, to maybe think before they act. If you have never experienced this, then you are in no position to judge, for you have not felt the embarrassment these people have had to endured.