MARINER- POCK MARKS OVER THEIR SKIN, WHO SMELLS BAD, AND IS DISHEVELED IS UGLY.
Now, that is a whole different story- your not talking about Hashem’s creation here. You’re talking about someone not taking care of themselves. That’s not called ugly as in opposition of beauty. That is ugly as in neglected. This is something that can be helped, and the person is at fault.
We’re talking about natural looks, how you were born and cannot change.
Anyway, I did not mean that you should marry someone who is unattracting.Someone who you view as ugly, be it skinny or fat, please dont marry them!!! But someone who is just decent looking, not the PRETTIEST, and well put together, will become attracted after marriage.
By the way, take a look at the Chassidishe world, they meet once and engaged!!! I doubt they get attracted to each other like that. But guess what, it works!!!
Theyre all so happy, many of them happier than couples that were SOOOOO attracted to each other.