Reply To: Shidduchim & Weight

These back and forth postings are not getting anywhere. There are those that believe that the surface should hold more weight (No pun intended) And there are those who believe that you should in many cases look beyond surface deep. We all I think, I hope realize that in the IDEAL world it’s middos that are the ikar over chitzonius and gashmius, but many people aren’t there, and they need a perfectly trim package to seal the deal. Unfortunately people aren’t changing their views, because there is too much pressure and too much caring about what the oilam thinks to choose a spouse that doesn’t depict that which everyone will be impressed by. But I hope that people will stop and think about what is important in a shidduch before a potential is “nixed” over something that after getting to know and appreciate a person isn’t as important as a name and a pretty picture of someone you don’t know. OF course attractiveness is important, of course being healthy and taking care of yourself is important, but if a person doesn’t fit that picture perfect image you had in your head, then maybe think, twice and give it a chance.