The looks, shapes, and sizes of people reminds me rather of the Victorian era circus.
You enter the circus and pass by the Big Fat Lady or the Dwarf. You see the Tall Man over 10′ high and the Bearded Lady. They greet you with a cherry “Hello” and you walk on by horrified and wary.
Then you walk through the Hall of Mirrors and proclaim “Do I really look that fat?” walking further through you then declare ” Am I that small and wiry looking?” and further on “Is that scary odd looking person really me?”
We spend too much time looking and judging. We envisage a world of utopia, perfection. But it’s not like that. The world is like a circus made up of all sorts but underneath all are human beings with emotions and feelings.
Stop being petty and judgmental about size 2 and 4 and 10 and 14’s etc. Stop judging Chassidim. Stop saying everyone wants a slim, pretty spouse. This whole thread is getting so out of order and I am surprised at some of the comments being made which show a shallowness in many people here. Some people truely see beauty within. Some of you may find that hard to believe but that’s sorry for you that you find it hard to believe. Some people, chassidim or otherwise after a short meeting or several feel comfortable enough with the other person to agree to make a life together and good luck to them that they are not on a cosmetic level as others. Don’t assume they are not happy. Why shouldn’t they be?
I am fed up reading the comments about people gaining weight after birth, and how they look before or after dating/marriage/birth. I am fed up with some of the senseless and stupid comments being made on this thread. I am truely staggered at some of the immature remarks being made. They are not befitting frum people. They are not befitting polite, well mannered people full stop.
As I have said before, the written word is mighty powerful and some comments here have been made before thought. Think before you write.