I like Cherrybim’s post. A wedding is only a couple of hours, we have to keep that in mind when making a simcha and to be considerate of the chosson and kallah’s families, especially in this day and age when there is a financial crisis going on.
Can I ask a stupid question, why can’t girls be reimbursed for their expenses? The kallah wants all her friends to come, plus the friends come to the vort and get an expensive gift for the vort to display (stardust anyone?). Some girls are working but a lot are in college.
Another silly question….do bochurim get letters in the mail asking for tzaddoka? Since my daughter got home from seminary she has been getting letters in the mail addressed to her, apparently she got on someone’s list. My daughter is not working, she is in school so she can support a talmid chochum when she gets married. What are they thinking, sending letters to single girls? She doesn’t know them and has no maaser to give them.