brooklyn19 is right as a person right out of yeshivas we are much more informed then a older person who thinks they know what they are talking about. we LIVED the reality i had the same experience doing everything behind the other boys backs. however i think i gained tremendsly from overcoming my personal nesinoys without a crutch to lean on. i came out a better person. however i would give my children a phone just with a occasinal check on the phone bill to make sure i know those numbers that are texet late at night and a lot of times.
additonally my friends whos parents did not give them phones went out and got a rediley availble pre-paid phone which is 100X more dangers because as long as you erase all the messages and call log there is no way whats so ever o track down anything and the number can always be changed!!!!