smalltowngirl,
I find that once you are married you have more of a leeway in the respect you give your parents since you are not always around them. You certainly don’t have to let yourself feel hurt by them, whatever hurt means in your scnerio. However, that does not exempt you from this Mitzva. Meaning Kibbud Av V’aem in the best way you can fulfill it in the setting and stage u r in. Ex: calling, visiting, bringing your children over so that ur parents can reap Nachas etc… I find once you are married and have a family you should be much less sensitive to their comments than you might have been as a girl. Also, keep in mind that as your parents age and get older they may not be at the best of health, and they may be worried about their health, which may sometimes cause them to say things they don’t mean. Your parents love you, do your best to love them back, despite all odds.