areivim, thanks for agreeing with me up until now. I disagree with you back. The person with the issues should be the one seeking the help, as long as the person who is the object of such feelings is not doing anything insensitive. What you said “there’s nothing they can do” is always the first line people use to avoid seeking help (I would get help, but there is no help). It could not be farther from the truth.
Of course, if they don’t want to be friends with you then back away. But if they do, then do your best to treat them properly.
ames, no one talked about their pregnancies or their child raising issues with her. She saw who was pregnant and who had children, and that was already more than she could handle. All were trying to keep the friendship where it was before the divergence, and continued to share with her the same things they had before they had kids. On the other hand, no one suddenly changed topics as soon as she walked into the room because that would make her feel like an outsider.