but usually, in most cases, parents want the best for their children. SOmetimes a parent may be able to see a broader picture than the child in shidduchim.
Sometimes, what the parents view as best, is not what the child wants. In the case above, the parents might fear that she will slowly dislike chassidish society and eventually divorce. Its a legitimite fear – a lot of people who cross boundaries have trouble adjusting. I’m not saying the parents are right, just that you need to defer to the person who is dating.
If the person is not mature enough to know what s/he wants in a relationship/marriage, chances are they are not ready to get married.