Teen, what do you think the source of being a “good person” is? The Torah Hakedoshah!
The source of all morals, even those we possess “naturally,” is the Torah. Chazal tell us that Histakel B’Oraisa V’Bara Alma. This means that Hashem based the world (nature) on the Torah. That is the only reason we have natural morals. So if all our morals of being a good person are based on the Torah, we should follow all (that we can) of the morals the Torah sets forth for us. This sounds demanding, but only Hashem understands you’re exact situation, and only He will be able to judge you.
Regarding parents: Theoretically, they all want the best for you. Some parents are missing basic parenting skills and I don’t know you or your parents (I think :)). What you said about pushing beliefs being counterproductive may be true, but every child must be dealt with differently. Some children may respond properly to this treatment but I disagree that it is always counterproductive. I do agree that parents must know who to push and how much to push, how to push, and who not to push at all. Unfortunately,not all parents understand this and push their children off further.
I give you and your parents a brocha that you should learn to understand each other and love Yiddishkeit.