in this context the onus is on you to avoid leaving out those redeeming details.
Actually squeak, doesnt halacha require you to be dan lekaf zechut? Its not like I said “My husband and I went on a romantic trip alone” – not one thing I said was against halacha.
To be honest, I’m comfortable enough in my own skin to know whats right/wrong and not particularly care who judges me. But, if you judge me publicly, don’t expect me to take it laying down. The proper way to approach it would have been to ask a question like “Were you able to accomplish that in a halachically acceptable way?” Your way was accusatory, not questioning.