Why in your example does the Kollel guy not spend time with his wife or kids. There are plenty of Avreichem who spend time with their wife and kids (and even do the Parsha Sheets with them).
If you want to compare the two, do so fairly, please don’t paint an unflattering portrait or use stereotype.
As for which one is better, everyone has their own nisyonos and tafkid. After 120 we’ll know. Until then, there are Gedolim who guide us.