I find it so curious that whenever a guy wants to find a “legitimate” excuse to not act in accordance with the Torah, he mockingly (i.e. letzanus) refers to the “bechukoseihem lo seleichu” or other Torah concepts. Good manners are, and should be, universal, per the Torah. Men considered as “stronger” than women, or their protectors, is another “bechukoseihem” idea and has nothing to do with manners or our Mesorah. So it doesn’t makes sense that they should treat them “deferentially”.
If you are going to find non-halachic reasons to justify calling Torah behavior “boorish”, I imagine Hashem is NOT pleased.