JayMatt – coming from the girl’s side here.
Of course it’s easier when I’m told about a boy who said yes already. However, very often, someone will suggest a name, we’ll look into it and see it’s totally off the wall. Then I can tell the person who suggested it, to not even bother redding it to the boy. It’s so much harder when they suggest a guy who gave a “yes” and then to have to say “no” because it’s not shoyach. I hate that responsibility and feel bad every time I do it.