Why is it more important that the girl never hear a “no”, then vice versa?
I think this is actually important because the boys get “lists” and the girls dont. So, a boy has a list of ten girls and you are number 9. Does it make sense to do the research, find out the guy sounds great, only to be turned down because he never made it past #3? Perhaps though, the boys parents should superficially look into all the girls on the list to see which ones are definitely wrong.
This is one thing that doesnt bother me – at least its a consistent format.