‘frummy black hatters yeshivish type’
If I have EVER used that specific expression in my posts, as per your direct quotation – I apologize, but I don’t think I have. I don’t bash Yeshivah bochurim. I find certain aspects of their behavior and mannerisms troubling. I also have no idea what you refer to when you state, “give the benefit of the doubt to people. maybe her comment came out differently as wanted and she didnt mean that or you took it the wrong way.” I wasn’t offended by anything that was said, I was explainingmy feelings vis a vis some very frum-appearing people who DO judge me by my (also frum, but different from their own) appearance, and make assumptions about my level of learning, hashkafa, religious observance, shmiras hamitzvos, kashrus, etc. Do not deny that if you see a frum person dressed a certain way that contradicts your own religious thinking, that you would not be thinking they are not kosher enough. I feel inclined to think you would not want to eat in their home. I was surprised that the person I was speaking to made such a baseless judgment.