“but if i see a woman wearing shorts and a t shirt in public i will not eat there and i assure you that the frum velt wont either. “
Then you would be missing out on a really wonderful and extremely reliably kosher meal that my sister or any of her daughters might prepare. Some members of my mishpacha who do not hold as I do insofar as dress codes are concerned, are more makpid on the kashrus of their kitchen and their observance of Shabbos than some women in my neighborhood in whose homes you would not hesitate to eat a meal. And don’t be so sure you wouldn’t eat there. Do you really think that the only people who prepare meals in kosher restaurants and hotels or catering facilities, dress like you? That is a little naive, I have to tell you, if you believe that.