I echo ICOT’s sentiments. I am married to a baal teshuvah of thirty-eight years, and the best advice I can give you, is never go from one extreme to another. Start at the comfort level that you find best suits your life, and build on it. Sometimes it takes baby steps. You will find that the things that you accept more slowly and thoroughly, are the things that you will make a lasting part of you. DFlipping in, may also mean flipping back out. Forget for the moment about this rov or that rov in your neighborhood. What are YOU looking to take into yuor heart from Yiddishkeit? Not everybody else’s hashkafa is the right thing for you. find a rov whom you can regard as a real role model and begin to adapt the hashkafos that you learn from him, to your own life. Again, moderation is the key. Some people become too frum too fast, and then they despair of ever measuring up to the frumkeit which they have adopted, and slowly fall away. So what if you use the internet. Use it wisely for your business purposes. Don’t use it for things that will distance you from Torah. The internet is a wonderful tool, so do not feel guilty for benefitting from it. telephones can be used for nefarious purposes too, but who would argue against having a phone? (well I guess there could be some who might, but…)
My husband has had almost 4 decades to reach the particular level of frumkeit that gives him great meaning in life. He took on mitzvos little by little until he had built up a solid foundation for himself, with the help of very close friends who were never ever judgmental of any frum level of observance at which he was at any given time. I know another guy who went from no observance to telling everyone else what was wrong with their observance of Yiddishkeit. A few years later he became frei again and is no longer observant of anything.
I wish you much hatzlacha in finding your own personal niche. Yeyasher Kochacha in making such an awesome and inspirational change in your life. You made the right choice to follow your neshama, and G-d willing you should bring children into the world in the near future, who will be a tremendous credit to klal Yisroel.