Ames, my cousin is having a problem now. Her father is a Rebbi and she wants someone who is learning or in kiruv. A lot of men don’t want to date her because her father is a Rebbi (AKA not rich). Sad, but true.
Ames, I disagree slightly on the lifestyle choice. Marriage is a lot of adaptation. You both have ways you want to go, and then ultimately the way you choose to go. Sometimes, that means changing a lifestyle for your spouse. An easier example might be moving to an out of town community far away from your family to be near your husband’s yeshiva. It might be hard on you, but for the right man, it would be worth it.
Granted, I agree that if you don’t want a Kollel lifestyle (or you don’t have parents/in-laws who can support you in the way you want), Kollel will become a drain on the family, cause unnecessary stress and either make the man leave Kollel, make the woman suffer or make the marriage suffer.